Monday, April 20, 2009

The Last Prejudice

Do Big Beautiful Women hold back more in their sexual relationships than other women?

Do Big Beautiful Women allow their own perception of body image to interfere with the way they resolve the issues that plague their chances of happiness?

When a relationship fails, are you one of those Big Beautiful Women that somehow blames their failure on your weight? Do you depreciate yourself? Do you wonder if his next girlfriend is thinner than you?

Do you blame it on your extra rolls, on the creases in your folds? Do you?

Do you find things that were wrong with you or possibly something your body was lacking that HE found unappealing? Did your thighs rub together and create dark spots that you did not want him to see. Well, guess what? HE saw them and guess another thing, it had nothing to do with the break up. See, there are other issues that certainly contributed to the break up. Could have your own perception and fears possibly contributed to the break up? Sometimes without knowing we sabotage our own happiness.

My beautiful full, voluptuous Goddesses, I am in no way judging you or minimizing the things that plague your minds. I’ve been there ladies. I too, yes, a MAN , have my own issues with my body image, I won’t take my shirt off on the beach unless some semblance of a six pack is showing, and ladies I am that man on the beach looking at all of you lovely shapely women , plus, full figured and yes SUPERSIZE women covering up all those glorious thunder thighs. Why do you hide? Why do I? Because it is the story we created in our minds. Attributed to the many stereotypes that people of size face in a society so focused on so called Beauty.

This is part of the reason I was inspired to write the last prejudice. What is “The Last Prejudice?”

“The Last Prejudice”, is the thoughts we have about our selves when we look in the mirror and are not satisfied that we have met society’s requisite image of perfection.

You may not know it to look at me but I have my own issues with my body. As I mentioned earlier, I do not remove my shirt on the beach or any other public venue for that matter. Not because anyone has ever told me that I’m fat or out of shape, but because that is the way that I see myself.

In this world that insists that our images reflect those of stick figures and women plagued with eating disorders it is important that we look deep inside ourselves to find the person that we truly wish to be other wise we apt to destroy our selves within and without.

So now I say to all the beautiful big women out there, enjoy yourself and let all of the real men enjoy you. Forgive us our trespasses, as we know not what the hell we’re doing or saying half of the time that we open our mouths. Allow us to love you the way that you are with or without the lights being on, and last but not least if it ain’t broke don’t fix it.

The Last Prejudice is all in your mind. Don’t allow others that are not in your world affect you.

"So let it be written, so let it be done"

David “Harlem’s Dragon”, Rivera Jr.

1 Comments:

Anonymous Clifford "Jake" Jacobs said...

Dear David,

I was sent the link to your site by my good friend Lynx. I'm happy to see that this blog exists, especially as it was started by a man who is not afaraid to proclaim his love for BBW's. So many men are "closet" FA's, but not you and neither am I.

Back in 1996 I helped Nancy Goddess create the cable program "Goddesses" and I was the original producer for many years. I was a fan of the full figured woman long before there was a name for such fondness. My Mom and most of her friends, my wife of many years are all Rubenesque. So from the time of my youth in the 60's I've loved the Goddess - the Earth Mother: symbol of fecundity, abundance and success.

I'm looking forward to picking up a copy of your book which I sure will be a great read.

Cliff

May 7, 2009 at 9:30 AM  

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